The concept of the Guys Night was a collective decision. It came from a really cool group, our friends. I say "really cool group" because I feel so lucky to have found these people. It is fantastic when you find couples to hang out with where both the fellas and the ladies genuinely like to hang out. We all have common interests, kids the same age and a zest for life.(really, we do) What we also have is a respect for "girl time" and for "guy time".
Honestly, I don't know if we all would have been so UP for giving the nights to our spouses if it wasn't a group decision. But that is how it went down. We all decided that we deserved a night. It was great for the guys to hear it from us and vice versa. I think it meant even more because the spouse at home agreed to be responsible for watching the kiddos. That meant there was no stressing over finding a babysitter or whether the kids were okay. (life has gotten busy for a few of us so babysitters have occassionaly been hired:)
But here is the deal, I really like seeing my hubby have some true guy time. Don't get me wrong, the fellas work out together, go on bike rides and the like, but true nighttime guy time is really hard to come by when you have 2 little kids. I love how happy he is when he comes home. Happy cause he had fun and happy because I "let" him do it. What an easy and wonderful gift. And I know how it feels.
Last night my girlfriend and I went to yoga, grabbed some food and a beer to go and snuck it into a movie. (we kinda felt like we were 16 again!) We cried like babies in "Love Happens" and then swung by the grocery store on the way home. It was a fabulous night. I was looking so forward to it that I was watching the clock...waiting for 5pm. When I come home from a girls night I feel rejuvenated. Like I was refueled because I got "me" time.
So here's the deal. Don't keep score. Don't lay any guilt trips. Let your spouses have a night. Let your spouses have fun and be happy for them. I think it is good for the marriage and good for the soul. Give it a try!