Something just happened that made me want to brag a bit about my parents. I can't talk about that "something" but I will say this, I am very proud of my them. They divorced when I was 7 and my brother was 9. I had no idea what "divorce" actually meant at the time and when they told me that my mom was moving out and getting her own place, I quickly drew up a plan where they could both live in our current house by sticking to a strict schedule when it came to the kitchen(the only room they both needed to use.) The plan went out the window and so did a little piece of my heart as I moved houses every six months for the next 10 years.
Don't get me wrong, I don't feel sorry for myself. I think divorce had a ton of positive affects on my life. It allowed me to REALLY get to know each of my parents. I am very proud of my relationships with my mom and dad. When you are a kid of divorce, you either talk about your feelings or you drown a little bit and WE TALKED. There are only a few fights that I remember between my mom and dad but they are far out-weighed by the great times. It was when I was about 12 years old or so when I noticed they started to become friends again.
Often times, my parents were the only two at our swim meets. So, they were kind of forced to talk to each other. I also like to think that they decided that it was worth it to try to patch up their broken relationship enough so that we could all hang out together as a "family" when needed. And, "when needed" ended up being quite often as time ticked on. Christmas', Thanksgiving's, birthday's and swim meets, we were often a mixed up random bunch, but we were together. My mom would bring her boyfriend, my dad would bring his girlfriend and my parents would, suck it up.
I was married when I was 24 and divorced 3 years later. I am thankful that we did not have any children and that our break was clean. Believe me, I know how difficult it was for my mom and dad to become friends, and I am damn proud of them for it. They have put my brother and I and our happiness before their own. They continue to do this now for us and even more so for their grandkids. Time is precious, and they are soaking up every second. My mom said to me the other day that the fact that her and my dad come together during the holidays is unique maybe even a bit strange. I told her that although I think it was unique 20 years ago, it is becoming more normal. In a way, they indirectly paved the way! Divorce can bring out the worst in people. I am proud to say that my parents are amazing and they have brought out the best in each other!
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Friday, March 18, 2011
Tuesday, October 6, 2009
Can we please stop with Jon and Kate!
Seriously, we all have to stop. Somehow we have to let the media world know that we are not interested in Jon and Kate anymore. This is awful. It actually makes me sick and I don't even know what is going on. I don't keep up with it, I just know they are angry with each other again. I saw her face on "The Today Show" yesterday and I was appalled. Why is their divorce and why are their daily conversations in the news. Is it really newsworthy? I don't think so.
So many questions and so many opinions surrounding this story but I will focus on the reasons why I am disgusted by it. I come from a divorced family. My parents divorced when I was 7 years old. I didn't really know what was going on but a lot of my friend's parents were splitting up at that time so I felt like we were all the same, that my family life wasn't different from everyone else.
There were times when my mom and dad said mean things to each other. Where they were yelling and threatening each other. I remember my brother and I were super upset by all of this and relied on each other a bunch. The hardest part for me, as a 7 year old, was simply that my parents were not going to be living in the same house. My heart hurt for the parent that was not with us. Kids are put under a lot of stress during a divorce.
With all of that in mind, I cannot imagine if my parents were airing their dirty laundry in public. Talking to millions about how they said this or they said that and always tagging it with, "But I am trying to be the best parent and take care of the kids." Taking care of these little kids means keeping them safe from everything including hurtful words. These kids lives are out there for the public to see as well and without their consent. I can't imagine putting that on top of all the stress the family is under.
I, you and everyone else knows this is all coming down to money. If they really cared about the kids and didn't care about money, they would hide more and talk less until American's silly fascination with their family and their failures was no longer. I have to trust that they are good parents. That they do want what is best but they have gotten wrapped up in it all. I only hope they realize their mistakes and correct them sooner than later. I think many people would applaud them if they gave up their show and tried their best to live normal lives.
My parents are now great friends. We have celebrated countless holidays together and have created tons of fun memories. It took them a few years but they now consider each other friends. I can't imagine how they would feel if all of their hurtful words were out their in the public forever. Once it hits the airwaves, it will live on the internet for a long time. Think of the kids REALLY think of the kids and make it right!
So many questions and so many opinions surrounding this story but I will focus on the reasons why I am disgusted by it. I come from a divorced family. My parents divorced when I was 7 years old. I didn't really know what was going on but a lot of my friend's parents were splitting up at that time so I felt like we were all the same, that my family life wasn't different from everyone else.
There were times when my mom and dad said mean things to each other. Where they were yelling and threatening each other. I remember my brother and I were super upset by all of this and relied on each other a bunch. The hardest part for me, as a 7 year old, was simply that my parents were not going to be living in the same house. My heart hurt for the parent that was not with us. Kids are put under a lot of stress during a divorce.
With all of that in mind, I cannot imagine if my parents were airing their dirty laundry in public. Talking to millions about how they said this or they said that and always tagging it with, "But I am trying to be the best parent and take care of the kids." Taking care of these little kids means keeping them safe from everything including hurtful words. These kids lives are out there for the public to see as well and without their consent. I can't imagine putting that on top of all the stress the family is under.
I, you and everyone else knows this is all coming down to money. If they really cared about the kids and didn't care about money, they would hide more and talk less until American's silly fascination with their family and their failures was no longer. I have to trust that they are good parents. That they do want what is best but they have gotten wrapped up in it all. I only hope they realize their mistakes and correct them sooner than later. I think many people would applaud them if they gave up their show and tried their best to live normal lives.
My parents are now great friends. We have celebrated countless holidays together and have created tons of fun memories. It took them a few years but they now consider each other friends. I can't imagine how they would feel if all of their hurtful words were out their in the public forever. Once it hits the airwaves, it will live on the internet for a long time. Think of the kids REALLY think of the kids and make it right!
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